As parents and educators we want our children to excel on every platform be it in academics, sports, leadership, so that they can successfully launch into a bright future. While we focus on providing the skills for the above, we need to be aware that we also have to inculcate good moral standards and right behavior in order to help them achieve their goals. Investing time in focusing on the moral and emotional quotient of a child will reap great fruit in terms of productivity, mental balance and a deep rooted sense of self that helps them to cope effectively with all the obstacles that come their way thereby gifting them with a vision of limitless opportunities.
In our present day world, our children have to face many challenges such as multi cultural exposure, external factors such as peer pressure, social media, busy schedules of parents, free exposure to crime and pervert behavior through media. The list goes on. Despite these challenges, not all is lost. With determination, patience and perseverance, we can help our child to understand the importance of morals and ethics.
There is famous quote by Mark Caine, “The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself” This is exactly what we need to instill in our children to be masters of the situation and not slaves to it.
Children imitate what they see and observe. Give them a good imitation to follow and that puts you on top of the list. We are not perfect either and let them see that too. Allow your child seeing you making a mistake and apologizing, not quitting, rising up from failure, not winning and yet being happy, being grateful and cheerful. Life is not a bed of roses. There will be fights, loss, loneliness, emptiness, but the important thing is to remember that your child is not looking at the circumstances that come your way but is observing how you react to it.
As it is said, what you sow today, you will reap tomorrow. You sow an environment of aggression, unforgiveness, vengeance, foul language, inability to relate, and all you will reap is a carbon copy of that very environment. On the other hand, if the child is able to witness failure with grace, expressing different views and yet peaceful, respecting others with kindness especially the people who work for us like our house keepers, watchman, garbage cleaners, generosity with little, reaching out to the less privileged, sensitivity to others pain, gratitude, lots of love, hugs and quality time as a family, you have accomplished the impossible. Once you have done the toiling, just sit back and see the young sprout standing tall one day nourished in love and basking in the world of opportunities.
Some tips to develop the moral and emotional quotient of your child
From a learning Parent, Pearl Raj